I was at a local bar here earlier today just watching guys walk up and talk to women. I find in funny and sad at the same time to watch guys endlessly walk up to beautiful women and get shot down immediately.

Its usually the same thing every time... the guy walks up close to the girl he likes... so close that there is no other possible reason he could be there but to talk to the girl. He stands next to her pretending that he doesn't want to talk to her while every once in a while glancing at her hoping she might say something to him.

What ends up happening every time is that the guy either finally builds up the courage to say something or gets overcome by fear and walks away pretending like he walked over to her to do something other than talk to her.

Before we even talk about what he says to her, let's look a little bit at what he just did. Its very obvious when a guy walks up to a girl that he wants to talk to her. So, when he acts really anxious to be standing somewhere for no reason, the girl knows exactly what he's doing.

She's probably thinking in her head, "Oh no... not another one of THESE guys."

Why? Think about what this guy is doing. He's walking up like he's scared of this little girl and pretending for an extended period of time that he's not there to talk to her in a way that makes it obvious that he's there to talk to her.

And not only that, he's not the first one that did it today. He's not the first one to do it THIS HOUR. Hot girls in bars and clubs have waiting lines of loser guys who try to pretend they aren't interested in women in a way that shows that they are overly interested in them.

And what makes it even worse is when these guys say something to these girls. Have you ever tried to use one of these lines...

"Hey, do you know what time it is?"

"I just wanted to tell you that... you're beautiful"

"I like your outfit"

"Can I buy you a drink?"

You know, maybe your mom or a girl who isn't very good looking and doesn't get guys who approach her would really like you to come up and say something like that to her. But, rest assured, those four lines were said to this girl probably 10 times each already in the last day or two(I've watched it).

And Guess what... when you say something like that to a girl... when you walk up and act nervous and scared to talk to her... you're just like EVERY OTHER GUY that has talked to her all night long.

You NEED to do something different when you talk to girls. Especially when you talk to HOT girls.

The answer?

Tease her. Teasing girls says so many good things about you. It says that you:

1) Aren't like every other guy in here

2) Aren't overly impressed by her looks

3) Have a sense of humor

4) Are a challenge to her

These are all great traits to have. In addition to being this extremely attractive guy by teasing women, you also weed out women who are insecure. You win in every direction.

So, let's talk a little bit about what teasing comments are. When you tease someone, you give them something and then take it away. For instance, strippers tease you by showing their bodies, making you give them money and then put their clothes back on. It's a total tease.

Well, you can do the exact same thing with a comment. Instead of being just like all the other guys out there and validating women everywhere you go, you can start to tease them.

Here are a few stock comments you can make show you're a completely different guy than most and create engaging conversation...

If you see a girl with a bright colored jacket, say,

"I like your jacket... the 80s look does well for you."

When you see a girl with those trendy furry boots on, ask her,

"I really like your boots... did you mean to dress up like Chewbacca tonight?"

When you see a girl with one of those trendy jackets that cut off right above her breasts, ask her,

"Hey, I like your jacket but I feel sorry for the midget you stole it from. He's probably cold now!"

Look at a girl's watch and say,

"That's an awesome watch, my little sister has that exact same one... but her's is pink."

In these teasing comments, we give the girl a compliment and then immediately take it away.

The key to saying something like this is to have a slight smile on your face when you do it. Its all about having a sarcastic, yet funny delivery to it.

It also has to have some playfulness to it. You don't want to look like you're insulting the girl. Most girls understand exactly what you're doing and would LOVE to play along with little comments like this.

If the girl teases you back, ask her if she wants to go outside and fight(keep smiling). If you tease a girl enough, you've eventually start coming up with your own teasing comments that will have women attracted to you.

Go out and try it. You can be like every other guy out there and stand next to a girl for five minutes kicking yourself while trying to think of an original thing to say to a woman. Or, you can immediately walk up with a smile on your face, differentiate yourself from every other guy out there and say something that get her chasing after you.

I know it's a hard decision. You can be an overly nice guy, chase women who aren't interested in you for the rest of your life and have women walk all over you or you could immediately be challenging, show some back bone and get women chasing you.

You can be one of the 100 "nice guys" who get a fake number from her this week... or you can be the guy who she chases after, calls all the time and wants to have an intimate relationship with.

The key word... TEASE

The next time you go in to kiss a girl, tease her by getting very close to her lips like you're about to kiss her and then lean back away from her and smile.

Tease women whenever you get the chance because it will drive them wild. If you become another boring, predictable guy, you'll lose... every time.

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